Who Benefits From Attending Marriage Therapy In Recovery?

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Individuals recovering from substance use disorder (SUD) often have relationship issues that need addressing during treatment. According to the Journal of Food and Drug Analysis, “Couples or family sessions can help families address their questions and concerns, change how they interact within the family system, and improve communication.” Newport Beach Recovery Center offers family and marriage therapy to clients in all of our treatment programs. We can help you heal from the damaging side effects of substance abuse and repair essential relationships.

What Is Marriage Counseling?

During marriage or couples therapy, you will attend joint therapy sessions with your significant other. Depending on the program, sessions might take place in person or online. Outpatient clients often benefit from in-person appointments. However, individuals new to rehabilitation or early in treatment might do better using telehealth services. For some people, physical distance can decrease stress and make it easier to focus on recovery.

Marriage counseling usually consists of the following:

  • Weekly joint and individual sessions
  • Homework that may include documenting events or practicing coping skills
  • Discussing problems and improving skills like conflict resolution

Often, the tension between couples improves when they increase communication and establish healthy boundaries. According to BMC Public Health, “Studies have found significant improvements in relationship satisfaction from pre- to post-treatment and throughout one to two years following [counseling].” Couples therapy can guide you through the process of resolving conflicts healthily. Once you identify your needs and any relationship problems, you can address them in therapy sessions.

How Can Marriage Issues Interfere With Rehabilitation?

Many people in recovery choose to focus on their mental health without prioritizing their relationships. However, social interactions and the support of loved ones play a vital role in relapse prevention and long-term recovery. Ultimately, the decision to include your partner in the process often depends on the circumstances of your relationship.

The most common ways that relationship issues can interfere with rehabilitation include the following:

  • Loss of emotional and social support
  • Increased stress, anxiety, or depression
  • Lower self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Financial strain
  • Family instability

Couples with children face the added challenge of navigating relationship issues while prioritizing their children’s development and well-being. You can successfully overcome these problems by making an effort to include marriage therapy in your treatment plan.

What Are the Benefits of Marriage Therapy?

Marriage or couples therapy can help you communicate your feelings and give you insight into what your significant other needs. Couples therapy does the following:

  • Allows couples to focus on their relationship and each other
  • Improves overall communication
  • Provides access to an unbiased and objective outside perspective
  • Improves self-awareness and personal growth
  • Decreases risk of divorce or separation
  • Encourages healthier family dynamics

In addition to providing support and conflict resolution, marriage therapy also lowers the risk of relapse triggered by relationship stress. Therapy can help couples forgive past mistakes, accept current circumstances, and move forward. According to the Journal of Family Psychology, “[R]esearchers have concluded that forgiveness is the cornerstone of a successful relationship.” You can reconcile with your loved one or strengthen an already strong bond by attending therapy and finding ways to support one another.

Should You Attend Marriage Therapy During Treatment or Aftercare?

Not everyone needs marriage therapy, and sometimes one or both individuals may not be ready to take that step. Treatment requires a couple to willingly work together and agree on a healthy path forward. However, sometimes it takes a while to reach that point. If you and your significant other struggle to see eye to eye or have unresolved issues, therapy may help.

Most people do not attend marriage therapy during detox or early recovery. Instead, they spend that time focusing on achieving physical and psychological stability. However, in the later stages of treatment or aftercare, relationship issues may become a significant stressor that requires attention. You can collaborate with your care team to determine if marriage therapy will improve your outcome and lower your risk of relapse. Usually, individual therapy is the best place to start. In some cases, people choose to include marriage therapy later after they feel more confident in their sobriety and emotional stability.

You Can Repair Your Relationships

Every couple faces ups and downs in their relationship. Substance abuse may cause significant tension. Addressing issues early, learning to communicate effectively, and compromising will help you repair any damage. It’ll also stop SUD from causing more problems within your relationship.

Marriage issues can interfere with recovery if left unaddressed. You may feel helpless or uncertain about how to repair your relationship from the damage caused by substance abuse. However, you can heal your relationship and forge deeper bonds with your family and significant other. Couples therapy will give you the tools you need to recover and build a healthier future for your family.

Many people in recovery have relationship problems caused by substance abuse. Healing those wounds takes time and hard work. Attending therapy with your significant other can give you the tools you need to repair that damage. Some couples attend therapy even if they have no noticeable issues with their relationship to establish a healthy line of communication. Newport Beach Recovery Center offers marriage and family therapy to all of our clients. We understand that family and social support are critical to long-term recovery. We encourage family to attend psychoeducation groups to understand their loved one’s disorder better. To learn more about our programs and services, call our office today at (855) 316-8740. 

Understanding the Relationship Between Control Issues and Substance Misuse

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Individuals in recovery may struggle with unhealthy behaviors that contributed to the development of their substance use disorder (SUD). For some people, that can include control issues related to anxiety, compulsions, or mental health disorders. The need to feel in control can interfere with your relationships and recovery goals. 

Rehabilitation programs like the ones offered at Newport Beach Recovery Center can help you find healthier ways to manage your emotions. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), “Treatment enables people to counteract addiction’s disruptive effects on their brain and behavior and regain control of their lives.” You can get all the tools you need to overcome maladaptive forms of control and heal from substance misuse. 

The Relationship Between Control Issues and Substance Misuse 

Often, SUD starts as a form of self-medication. For some people, substance misuse provides a single area where they feel in complete control of their life. Substance misuse offers them an artificial sense of being in control. When they lose control over their substance misuse, they begin to look for other forms of control. In addition to substance consumption, individuals with SUD often seek out any form of control, including: 

  • Wanting to feel good or like a “winner”
  • A need to regulate emotions and emotional responses 
  • Setting unrealistic work, school, or relationships goals and blaming others for failure to meet them
  • Needing to be the center of attention in every situation
  • Insisting that your personal preferences are the only “correct” ones when discussing relationship issues

Over time, the need to control everything will only lead to further damage. Unfortunately, addictive behaviors affect mental and physical health and significantly worsen side effects related to co-occurring control issues.  

Signs of a Controlling Personality 

Controlling people often struggle with conflict. An inability to compromise can impact emotional health and significant relationships. Some common signs that someone may have a controlling personality include: 

  • Chronic self-victimization  
  • Blaming others for personal failures 
  • Insisting on maintaining control in most situations even when it inconveniences or causes discomfort for others 
  • Selfish behaviors 
  • Lack of empathy 
  • Possessiveness and jealousy 
  • Difficulty getting along with others 
  • Frequent workplace conflicts 
  • Abandonment and attachment issues 
  • Extreme mood swings 

People with controlling personalities rarely take responsibility for the consequences of their actions. If you or someone you love fit these criteria, professional treatment can help. Individual therapy encourages you to develop essential social skills, including conflict resolution and healthier ways to process perceived faults in yourself or others. 

Underlying Causes of Control Issues 

Everyone has a unique journey. In some cases, that involves personality issues caused by past trauma. Control issues have underlying causes that include: 

  • Family or societal pressure
  • Trauma 
  • Chronic or acute stress 
  • Relationship issues 
  • Low self-esteem and low self-confidence
  • Childhood abuse or neglect 
  • Being raised by a controlling or disinterested parent 

Social and family expectations might have left you anxious, depressed, or emotionally overwhelmed. However, prioritizing your life to meet unrealistic personal expectations is not healthy. Sometimes it can lead to the development of control issues that only cause more problems. Getting help is the first step toward complete recovery. 

Common Control Issues Experienced by Individuals in Recovery 

It’s important to both acknowledge the underlying causes of your control issues and recognize the ways that you can heal yourself. Some common areas affected by control issues that you can change with treatment include: 

  • Relationship miscommunication or manipulation 
  • Unsustainable workplace pressure
  • Social tension caused by enabling or co-dependent behaviors

As discussed, control issues can take many forms and impact different areas of your life. By working through your interpersonal issues and changing your patterns, you’ll feel stronger in your healing. 

Taking Advantage of Self-Control

Control takes many forms, and in some cases, self-control can positively affect treatment and recovery from SUD. According to Perspectives on Psychological Science, “Self-control enables us to navigate conflicts.†Some healthy forms of self-control include:

  • Limiting unhelpful physical behaviors and impulses 
  • Emotion regulation 
  • Managing intrusive thoughts and compulsions  
  • Find creative solutions to problems

Self-control allows you to focus on establishing and achieving recovery goals. Some people obsess over maintaining self-control to the point where it negatively affects their ability to function. You can work with your therapist to find a healthy balance of self-control and self-acceptance.

Healthy Ways to Stay in Control

Despite the negative repercussions of forcing control, there are also ways to use it to your advantage. You can use your controlling personality to your benefit during treatment. A few ways you can take advantage of a need to remain in control include: 

  • Actively participating in every aspect of therapy and treatment to ensure you learn essential skills and tools 
  • Permitting yourself to prioritize healthy activities like self-care
  • Listening to peers and your care team to get outside perspectives to get a more objective view of your circumstances

Some people use their need to maintain control as motivation to get the most out of every therapy session. However, it is essential to work with your therapist to find healthy outlets for any compulsive thoughts or behaviors. Otherwise, you might find yourself trying to control every aspect of your recovery without first developing the necessary tools. 

Oftentimes, individuals with control issues misuse substances as a way to self-medicate. The effects of certain substances allow them to meet specific goals or cope with untreated mental health issues. In the end, the damaging effects of substance misuse can worsen control issues and lead to the development of mental health problems like OCD, though. Control issues can also come from undiagnosed personality disorders and learned behaviors. No matter the cause of your control issues, Newport Beach Recovery Center can help you overcome them. During intake, we comprehensively review your history, addiction, and mental health. This allows us to create a truly personalized treatment plan. To learn more about our programs, call us at (855) 316-8740. Start healing today.